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i think there is a very definited blurring between an escort and a partner/girlfriend/wife. the majority are sadly not together (in the long haul at least) for love, but for money / practical reasons. very sad observation i know but true. comments?

2011-02-21T06:00:00.001-08:00

I completely agree with your observation. Inmtersting that some of these women that aren't escorts, would consider escorts beneath them. They wouldn't agree or acknowledge your observation. The clear difference is, as an escort the arrangement is discussed and agreed and out in the open, and both parties know where they stand, whereas in relationships the arrangement can sometimes not be discussed just accepted by both parties. Many women marry for money and/or stay with someone for money. Personally I couldn't do it, I'd rather earn my own money and be financially independent.

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why do you think men and women are so fixated on sex? and why do you think there is such a stigma about nudity? deep questions i know, lol, but really really interested in your answer(s).

2011-02-21T05:55:00.001-08:00

I don't think everyone is fixated on sex. Some are some aren't. The people who are fixated on it, are for different reasons. Some do it to boost self confidence, some do it for thrills, some are sex addicts, some stress relief... all sorts of reasons.

The stigma about nudity comes from us being pudish Brits. I think the human body is beautiful and a perfect example of natural art. I've never had any issue with nudity. I remember my dad being horrified when I showed him my first nude photograph. I had modeled for a lad on a photography course at aged 17, but previously I'd done life drawing at uni, so it was no big deal to me. The naked body can be beautiful without being sexual.

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hi, i came across a youtube video of you talking about your ex escorting days, and your book. firstly, i am ordering your book when i bank my money tomorrow! i've just starting escorting, and it's so nerve-racking! can you give me some hints/tips? xx

2011-02-08T08:36:00.001-08:00

Hi thanks for getting in touch and your interest in my book. The best way to order my book is directly from me (please contact me via the enquiry form on here) ... http://www.thegirlfriendexperience.tv I also offer a paid escort advice service/coaching here... http://www.rebeccadakin.com/how-to-become-an-escort/

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Following a relationship ~(18 months) - How long is acceptable before dating again?

2011-02-07T01:15:00.001-08:00

when ever you feel ready to. Please ask some none generic questions Dave! I'm going to have to delete the others - I'm sorry lol :)

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Do you think girls are happier than boys? In general. Interested to know what you think. Think there is a lot of pressure on people these days to be seen to conforming to the stereotypical relationship portrayed by the media etc.

2010-12-09T10:50:00.001-08:00

I also think that many people both male and female stay in relationships even though they are unhappy because a) they don't want to be alone b) convenience c) financial reasons

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I was just looking for a personal opinion on girls and boys, based on the people you have come across. How do they seem to you. Not looking for a definitive answer based on everyone in the world, lol. And similar for love. Just your thoughts that's all :)

2010-12-09T09:35:00.001-08:00

you got my thoughts :) I'm sorry but I don't know what else to say about it :/

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Do you think girls are happier than boys? In general. Interested to know what you think. Think there is a lot of pressure on people these days to be seen to conforming to the stereotypical relationship portrayed by the media etc.

2010-12-08T05:56:00.001-08:00

again i don't know how I am supposed to know this answer, without researching it. I think both men and women are increasingly becoming more insecure (especially with regards to their looks) due to pressure from the media

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Do you think most people know what love is? Boys or girls.

2010-12-08T05:54:00.001-08:00

I'm not sure how you expect me to know the answer to such a question :/ wthout researching and asking hundreds of people, I've no idea.

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How's the new book coming along? Will we get to read it soon?

2010-12-03T01:07:00.001-08:00

yes it's all going well thank you. Lots of guys wanting to help which is great, but I still need more! if you sign up on my site, you'll get a sample of what I'm doing in the next few months :) http://www.rebeccadakin.com/why-men-cheat/

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How do you game boys without appearing needy, etc? thanx

2010-12-01T03:07:00.001-08:00

have a busy social life, lots of friends, be indepenedent, and let guys call/text you ;-p needy people have too much time on their hands!

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Have you ever thought of escorting purely for companionship? I'm guessing you did a lot of this before, but it could be your only focus now. A way of helping guys deal with their problems. But perhaps you think guys are beyond help, lol.

2010-12-01T02:03:00.001-08:00

er, I do!? I guess you haven't seen my site then? I have platonic dates booked next week. http://www.miss-b.net and new site coming soon, with further dating services and advice for single men.

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Rebecca Dakin, Infidelity expert and author of The Girlfriend Experience

2010-11-30T07:47:00.001-08:00

Please check out my new blog.....http://www.thegirlfriendexperience.tv

Here are my other new websites....
http://www.rebeccadakin.com
http://www.infidelityexpert.co.uk

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If you only had a month left to live, what would you do with it?

2010-11-29T13:19:00.001-08:00

can't you think fo your own questions? ;-p I'm not good at these generic ones. Erm.... I'd travel the world

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If you could choose any job in the world to do, or universe, lol, what would it be, and what would you want to achieve while doing it?

2010-11-16T03:43:00.001-08:00

Solo singer. I'd like to be a multi million record sales artist who's music like Madonna sustains interest and evolves, through the decades and whose music makes me an icon of a particular music genre :)

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Am I the only guy who very often prefers close seductive contact and cuddles to sex? The thing is all women think men only want sex. Any ideas to help allay a woman's fears? But perhaps all the woman wants is sex, lol.

2010-11-16T03:40:00.001-08:00

Nope not at all :) I discuss in my book The Girlfriend Experience that it's one of the biggest misconceptions that men only want sex. I made exactly that point, that 'men are a lot more in need of general closeness and love and affection than women give them credit for'. The way to ally a woman's fears is to simply tell her how you feel and show her, by not trying to get into her knickers when you are making out.

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Can you explain... ////Have you ever had it on with another girl. Even if it was only for a client? i had lesbian sex a few years before I started working as an escort, but did meet m/f couples as an escort and I also did two girl jobs with other escorts/

2010-11-16T03:37:00.003-08:00

what do you not understand?

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is there anything you would like to do before you die? not that you will soon hopefully, lol, but there might be some things you are really passionate about doing or achieving.

2010-11-16T03:37:00.001-08:00

make a million ;-p

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what makes you sad?

2010-10-25T11:47:00.001-07:00

cruelty/violence to people, animals etc...

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What is your advice for people that are unhappy within themselves?

2010-10-25T11:46:00.001-07:00

get help! There are lots of books, and advice and support out there, but people are too lazy and just like to moan without being proactive and searching for information on how to change. It's hard work, but do'able once you get the right mind set and work hard at it

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What would your ideal man look like. What characteristics and vibe would he ideally have. Would you want to be with him 24/7, or have your time together punctuated with time apart. Do you find it easy to be alone, and happy within yourself.

2010-10-25T11:44:00.001-07:00

I don't care about looks... l like a man who looks after himself and is hygienic. I don't want to be with anyone 24/7! I've been single for over 3 years, I'm confident, driven and ambitious, so I don't have time to be bored and lonely, but it would be nice to find that special someone to share my life with

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Do you fear for the future of humanity? What is your idea of heaven on earth?

2010-10-25T11:42:00.001-07:00

yes we're going to be over run by chavs in a few years time because they're the ones breeding whole football teams and that have kids that have kids. Sensible, educated people are putting their careers first and settling down later on in life and having smaller families. This thought terrifies me :/ heaven on earth ermmmm..... dunno sorry... a mountain of shoes? ;-p

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what makes you happy?

2010-10-25T11:39:00.001-07:00

sunshine, friends, family

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Have you ever had it on with another girl. Even if it was only for a client?

2010-10-25T11:38:00.001-07:00

i had lesbian sex a few years before I started working as an escort, but did meet m/f couples as an escort and I also did two girl jobs with other escorts

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Have you every considered being a nun?

2010-10-25T11:37:00.001-07:00

yes haha :)

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When you find yourself a lovely boyfriend who deserves it, will he be on the receiving end of all the lovely attention and ego-massage you used to lavish on clients? Or do you think it's not possible to give that to a man 24/7, even if you love him?

2010-10-19T14:14:00.001-07:00

The reason I was good at my job as an escort, is because I genuinely like to make people feel good about themselves. I had 3 long term relationships when I worked as an escort, and each of them knew about my job. I could never compare boyfriends to clients because they are completely different - one is a job, and one is personal. However whenever I have a boyfriend, I am a very loving, giving, tactile, and caring person and they get all that and more :)

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Following on from your last answer, is there anything you can do to help men with their perceived deficiencies (from a female perspective at least) in genetic and social makeup. Anything at all? lol

2010-10-18T04:57:00.001-07:00

Regarding men's egos, there isn't anything anyone can do, they either have an ego or they don't. Regarding mens insecurities it's difficult because men aren't natural communicators, and for anyone to deal with insecurities they need to be able to voice them and by voicing them people can feel vulnerable, which can put many off. Also I think some men find it difficult to understand why they feel a certain way, so they genuinely don't know why they feel insecure.

I believe my next book, 'Why Husbands Stray' will certainly help men in a way that by telling me their stories they themselves are finding the process therapeutic, and they're having to think back and try to remember why they did certain things and how they were feeling, which isn't something that they had thought about before. I also believe this book will help women understand men more and be more sensitive to their insecurities, which in turn may help men.

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Why do you think men are more insecure than women? Perhaps their egos are bigger? Or they feel that being with a woman is something they have to do to find themselves, and becomes an obsession, but doesn't provide the answers they are looking for.

2010-10-15T02:50:00.001-07:00

Definitely bigger egos! 'Find themselves'?! Lol, definitely not. The more guys get the attention (even though it's manufactured and the result of a business arrangement), the more they seek it and crave it, and then yes it can become somewhat of an addiction, and some guys become completely delusional.

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Was there a single characteristic you noticed about guys who were looking for an escort. Looking for a bit of depth in an answer rather than "they just wanted a good time", or "they were lonely" :-)

2010-10-14T03:09:00.001-07:00

I think that most wanted to feel attractive and desired, and to have an attractive lady genuinely interested in them. In my experience men seem to be a lot more insecure than women.

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You say in your book that you were worried about "falling" for one guy. You only saw him once through bad luck but were willing to see him again if he could manage it. Why were you worried, and if you were worried why would you risk seeing him again?

2010-10-08T01:22:00.001-07:00

When I referred to that particular date what I said was meant tongue in cheek, not to be taken literally. I'm sorry if that wasn't clear. I was basically trying to get across that it was one of the best dates I'd had. I'd have loved him to book me again, because we had an amazing date! It's doubtful I would fall for someone that I hardly ever saw, there would have needed to be some consistency for me to potentially get attached to him. Who knows I might have met him again, and it could have been completely different and I might have gone right off him! :)

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How would you define love? Most people's idea of love is an addictive, clinging quality, that they need to complete themselves. I guess this is why escorts are in such high demand!

2010-10-03T10:28:00.001-07:00

wow thats a profound question lol :) er love is difficult to define, and there's lots of different kinds of love. I've never had the 'clinging' kind of love, and I guess that's a good thing. Love to me, is a deep admiration, respect and caring for a person.

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You are pretty. Not just in a visual sense. But in the way you come across in your recent video interview. How important is being pretty to you? How would you like to be different from the way you are?

2010-10-03T10:20:00.001-07:00

Thank you for your compliment :) sadly I'm very self conscious of my looks, but I guess a lot of women are nowadays.

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What makes Gordon Ramsay so sexy?

2010-09-27T12:51:00.001-07:00

his confidence and passion in his cooking. Plus he's a bit rough round the edges.. which i like :)

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Have you considered running an escort agency? Not one of the many ones that employs anyone (even though they say that they don't), but one where you could really make a difference in helping those that want to continue in the profession, make them happier

2010-09-27T12:50:00.001-07:00

Hi yes I have. Escort agencies selling sexual services are illegal, and I know there are many, but it's not something I want to get into myself, due to the legalities. I am using my experience as an escort in positive way by putting my energies into working as an Infidelity Expert, offering support and guidance to people who suspect or know their partner is cheating, and also I offer advice on how to keep relationships from going stale and to bring back the spark :)

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what has been the feedback from any of your former clients who have been mentioned in your book ?

2010-09-13T03:24:00.001-07:00

Two of them I am still very close friends with now, and both say they enjoyed the Girlfriend Experience very much, and found it interesting to read my perceptions of our dates. Other ex clients have written to me disappointed they weren't mentioned! lol :)

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I loved your book! Not really a question I just wanted to tell you how fabulous it was. From a fellow happy escort x

2010-09-13T03:23:00.001-07:00

thank you! I am so pleased you enjoyed it. Please feel free to write a book review on Amazon if you have time :) all the best x

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in your book perhaps future book(s), do any of your former clients (not just any client to make it tie in with your own story) give their perspective on the whole escorting experience? what they got out of it. frustrations. expectations etc.?

2010-09-13T03:21:00.001-07:00

Have you read my book?

There are a couple of my escort reviews that were from an online review site, that I quoted in the book, so that showed what those particular people thought about their dates with me. Since I have stopped escorting the reviews are now no longer available online. I had over 50 positive reviews :)

It was important for me to get outside input into The Girlfriend Experience, which is why there were not only ex clients views on me and our dates, but it is also why my mum and various family members and friends wrote their thoughts on my chosen profession. I wanted it to be a well balanced book, showing different people's views/thoughts as well as my own.

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what is a regular amount you got from escorting? how does it work? or are you high class?

2010-09-07T00:14:00.001-07:00

I think you need to read my book the Girlfriend Experience, and my blog :) I usually earned between £550 - 1000 per date.

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how often did you get tested for STD's? did you ever do it without a condom?

2010-09-07T00:09:00.001-07:00

Every 3 months and I was always clear. They are very helpful at the STD clinic if you tell them you do sex work. I had all my hepatitis injections, and they provide free condoms. I always used condoms except with 2 people that I was extremely fond of, and this was in my first year escorting. When I got accused of giving one of them an STD, I went and had myself checked out. I was fine, it transpired he had caught something off his wife who was having an affair with a guy at her gym! That made me realize that I'd been very silly, and I used them religiously ever since.

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i guess i meant some of the key things someone would need to address emotionally / psychologically post-escorting. not yourself perhaps as you were always doing what you wanted to do. never forced into things. but even then, there might be little things?

2010-09-06T11:38:00.001-07:00

ah ok. I can't really say because I have no 'issues' myself after escorting either emotionally or psychologically. I don't feel any different. I am still hoping to meet my Mr Right, and live happily ever after :) I can't speak for other escorts and I don't personally know of any ex escorts that have had problems, well those that have, had problems before they started escorting, so aren't industry related. Of course there will be lots of ladies that have had to address issues post escorting, but you're asking the wrong person, sorry I can't be of more help.

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it's good to come across a bit vulnerable in your video. honest! don't be shy :)

2010-09-06T11:32:00.003-07:00

lol ok thank you :)

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Do you think the lady interviewing you in your first blog video fancies you? She's certainly trying hard to talk in her sexiest voice :o)

2010-09-06T11:32:00.001-07:00

lol nooooo my dear friend Nikki is well and truly straight. Sorry to spoil your fantasy ;-p

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what are some of the key things someone needs to do to be able to leave escorting. there are people who enjoy it, but many who don't. i guess everyone has a different situation. but there must be common things to be able to deal with to be able to stop?

2010-09-06T09:27:00.001-07:00

Your question is a bit unclear, so I hope I've covered what you want to know.... Ladies that work as independent escorts can leave/stop at any time! People don't need to be 'able' to do anything. You just stop. Simples.

You should always have a back up plan/skill so that you can do something else if you have to or want to stop.

Ladies that don't enjoy it shouldn't be doing it. It is extremely damaging to women to carry on escorting if they don't want to do it and aren't enjoying it.

If you mean what tips would I give to escorts? it would be this golden solitary rule..... 'never ever do anything you don't want to do' that's it pure and simply. If you stick to this, you will always be ok working.

Only see who you want, when you want and on your terms and ALWAYS be prepared to walk away if you are not happy/comfortable.

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If someone takes a job serving fast food just because they need the money, is it different to someone doing sex work just because they need the money?

2010-09-06T04:33:00.001-07:00

In my opinion - no. Having worked in the sex industry and being someone who thinks there is nothing morally wrong with it, I'm sure I've answered as you would have expected me to answer - other people however are not as open minded as me :)

However saying that what you have to remember is that the two jobs are not comparable. In one you are selling food, in sex work you are selling yourself. Sex work is fraught with potential danger, and a risk of loss of self respect and a whole host of things that can cause ir-repairable damage to a person both physically and mentally.

There's also the fact that you'll never get addicted to the money working in a fast food joint, but you can get very easily addicted to the money you can earn in the sex industry.

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do you have any specific plans, other than your book and associated publicity? have you any other plans to help people who might benefit from your help?

2010-09-06T04:26:00.001-07:00

I love to help people! And would find it very rewarding to help escorts wanting to get out of the business, support for ladies in the business, advocating the legalization of prostitution, and any agony aunt/relationship advice for men and women. The problem is I need to earn a living, so for me to put a lot of time into these things I'd have to make it pay.

Anyone can email me for agony aunt/relationship advice as long as they don't mind if I anonymously put it on my blog, along with my reply. Were you referring to something particular?

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following on from question about leaving escorting; has your self-esteem been affected since quitting escorting? I presume your dates were CONSTANTLY telling you how beautiful you are and beaming from gratitude. Do you miss that aspect?

2010-09-06T04:21:00.001-07:00

Job/customer satisfaction/gratitude.... Of course I miss all that, but I think anyone does who takes pride in their work/business.

My self esteem hasn't been affected by finishing escorting. I am actually getting more interest from men in my personal life now that I have finished escorting. Maybe I'm giving off different vibes somehow. I have been on a few real dates, so I still receive compliments and I have some amazing male friends, who love and appreciate me, for which I am very grateful.

I am naturally a very caring, loving and generous person so I get fulfillment in my personal life from my friendships/relationships.

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you seem like a level headed person. able to do things that the majority wouldn't be able to do without eventually going off the rails. what's your secret? do you find it hard to adjust post escorting?

2010-09-02T00:19:00.001-07:00

If you read my book you'll find out ;-p

I think you've hit the nail on the head, I'm level headed, strong minded, strong willed - don't do anything I don't want to do, and god help anyone who tries to make me ;-p Escorting isn't for everyone, and like most jobs it takes a certain type of person to deal with it emotionally/physically. All I can say from a personal point of view is that I ran my escorting as a business, listened to my gut instinct, didn't do anything I didn't want to do, was prepared to walk away, was fussy with who I saw, and when I did see people they had to see me on my terms not theirs.

Even if I was strapped for cash I wouldn't take on a job I didn't think would suit me. This wasn't just for my benefit it was for theirs too, I hate to disappoint people, so I wouldn't accept a job if I didn't think I was the right person for it. Many girls took whatever they could, and that's when it gets dangerous. Some girls get greedy.

Guys thought they had the upper hand because they were paying, they were making the choice, but the choice was mine! It was mine whether I decided to see them, and thought that I could provide them with a memorable, special experience that would be mutually enjoyable, and it was mine when I chose to give my body. Mens money did not entitle them to see me, or be intimate with me.

Yes it's very hard to adjust post escorting. The thing I miss the most apart from meeting many wonderful and interesting people, is the fabulous restaurants and hotels. I still offer platonic dates so do get the opportunity every now and then to go to nice restaurants, but not often.

Having to also curb my spending, has been the biggest challenge.

The best thing is that I am actually being asked out on real dates, which didn't happen so much before. I must be giving off different vibes :)

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how do you think the image of escorts is fairing these days? certainly the drug image is a big part of the culture and puts a lot of people off. i know a lot of escorts needs to use drugs to be with relative strangers. and escorting to pay for the drugs.

2010-09-01T07:41:00.001-07:00

Interesting question... With every business there's drug users, even bankers, lawyers and high flyers are addicted to coke etc.... I don't think that it's just escorting that people associate with drug using, although they're an easy target because of the seediness of some prostitution. You could say the same about the stick thin models that end up cocaine and heroin users.

It's the same with any business you can do things properly or you can go down the seedy route. Many ladies on the street are run by pimps and funding a habit, as are many trafficked girls. Then there's agencies that supply drugs to girls and get them hooked because it makes them lose their inhibitions, and 'perform' better.

Then there's independents who end up using, because they don't really want to be doing the job, they let themselves be treated with disrespect, lose their self respect and end up having to take drugs to get through escort jobs to keep the money coming in. They're then on a slippery slope.

I discuss this in my book The Girlfriend Experience.

I sometimes went to work and didn't even have a drop of alcohol, and I rarely got tipsy. As far as I am concerned no matter what job you do if you have to drink or take any sort of other drug to go to work, then you've got problems!

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The Girlfriend Experience

2010-03-24T03:33:00.001-07:00

60 year old escort on This Morning new post on http://www.thegirlfriendexperience.tv/

The girlfriend Experience

2010-03-23T02:59:00.001-07:00

New posts on the new Girlfriend Experience blog... http://www.thegirlfriendexperience.tv/

Billie and Brooke Interview...

2010-02-01T05:53:00.000-08:00

new post on my new blog The Girlfriend Experience can be found here...

http://www.thegirlfriendexperience.tv/

New The Girlfriend Experience Blog...

2010-01-18T09:10:00.000-08:00

It's pretty much finished now apart from a few minor tweaks :) You can listen to be interviews, watch my TV debate with John Stapleton, see old archive photographs and now view my posts in categories/subject matters making the posts much easier to read. I am really pleased with it. Any comments or feedback on my posts on my new Girlfriend Experience blog would be appreciated.

http://www.thegirlfriendexperience.tv/

New improved blog - under construction

2010-01-09T02:32:00.000-08:00

The Girlfriend experience blog can now be found here The Girlfriend Experience . Please bear with me as it still needs work, but keep a look out over this next week as it takes shape :)

SMS strikes again....

2010-01-07T00:31:00.001-08:00

On my way back on the plane I found myself sitting next to a 40'ish year old man with SMS (that's single man syndrome - as I refer to it in my book the Girlfriend Experience). I bit my lip for so long but like torrettes I ended up uncontrolably having to say something to him. He was extremely overweight (not a problem in itself) however when breakfast was put in front of him he greedily scoffed the lot like someone who hadn't eaten for weeks, in barely 5 minutes without so much as looking up from his tray. This was repulsive and vulgar anyway, however after, he held each carton close to his mouth and started noisily and furiously using his finger and licking and scooping up all of the residue in each individual carton - the fruit?!, the yoghurt and the cooked breakfast. I looked at him a couple of times with distaste but he was so oblivious and engrossed in his vulgar eating that he didn't even notice. I started to physically feel sick, and decided to tell him so. He apologised but by then it was too late he was left with gleaming cartons that looked like they'd never contained any food or anything at all for that matter.

Using my vast experience of the habits of some single men, I deduced that he was definitely single, and possibly lived with his mum.

Some of you may think it was rude for me to say something but trust me these sort of people are very thick skinned. He won't have even thought twice about what I said and it will not affect his eating habits in future unfortunately.

I really feel like I could do some good by teaching basic table manners to some of these guys. I feel another business idea coming on haha :) The problem is that the people with these problems don't actually realise that they have a problem - like this particular guy. They are that self obsessed that they are just in their own little world. They probably have no idea why they never get asked out for dinner!

Met one of my heros at the airport!

2010-01-05T04:17:00.000-08:00

When I arrived back in Heathrow after a long 26 hours of travelling my taxi driver found me and out of the corner of my eye I saw Richard Branson. Now I've seen him and various other celebrities I admire before but I've never had the balls to say anything to them for fear of getting brushed off or ignored, but this time I thought if I don't, I'll regret it.

Richards autobiography is one of the ones I read just before I started writing. I even mentioned him in my acknowledgements. He made me realise that that cheesy cliche that 'you can do anything you put your mind to' is really true. If you want something bad enough you can get it. I love the way he built his empire and I have a lot of respect for him as a business man. People I know who have met him have said he was friendly so I was pretty sure he'd have a little time for me.

So I approached him and said that I enjoyed his book and that he's inspired me and that he had a mention, and my autobiography had been published in June. He thanked me, asked me my name, pecked me on the cheek and shook my hand and asked me to send him a copy of my book! I was so excited! So I shall. Maybe Virgin will print my next? :)

Santa found me in Thailand!

2010-01-05T04:05:00.000-08:00

My friend and I had an amazing time in Thailand. The weather was hot hot, the people were amazing and so friendly. The sunsets were picturesque, and the beaches beautiful. The massages were so cheap (between £5 and £10) that I had about 3. The best one being in a little place on the beach as the sun was going down. Thailand is now one of my fave places and I definitely want to go back very soon. I haven't had a 2 week holiday since I travelled to NZ in 2004, and it was great to be able to properly unwind and relax. No phone no internet, just total relaxation.

We spent Christmas day on the beach drinking cocktails as the sun went down before going back to our hotel for a Christmas dinner, cooked and arranged by the hotel manager who was an English guy. We had turkey with all the trimmings, even pigs in blankets. But also bwocolli and yorkshine puddings :))))) This was topped off with traditional Thai dancing, and fire entertainment. We danced and partied all through the night.

Something funny happened on Christmas eve.... my friend and I were joking with Bruce Lee (as he liked to be called) about whether Santa would find us in Thailand. He said we'd have to keep our doors open for him to get in, and we all had a laugh about it.

Later on we had forgotten about this little convo, and as I collapsed in bed after a rather heavy night out I fell into a deep sleep. Only to be woken a couple of hours later with a gentle nudge. I jumped up in fright and saw Bruce in a Santa hat sitting at the side of my bed holding as little tree decoration 'present'. Now as people that know me will know I am not the best person to wake up in the night! Lol.

"What are you doing? what do you want?" I asked repeatedly, frustratedly, half asleep. Poor Bruce I wish I could have seen his face. I'm surprised I didn't scare him off with my eye mask and ear phones I must have looked like some sort of weird alien!

In the morning I wondered if it had all been a dream it was very vague, but as I looked at the side of my bed I found the santa hat and present on the floor where he had scarpered after my tirade of questions about what on earth he was doing. He must have just dropped everything and ran out!

It was very weird and freaky, however I am sure he didn't mean any harm. He too was drunk and he probably thought it was a funny thing to do at the time.

The next day he couldn't look me in the eye, but eventually he called me over and I told him he had scared me and shook my finger at him (his english wasn't very good) to try to say it wasn't a good thing to do. He understood and thankfully it was all forgotten about.

Poor Bruce being only about 4' tall was more like Santa's little helper than Santa himself. Bless :)

I tell ya what though I never forgot to lock my door again after that no matter how much I'd had to drink! Lol :)

Ho Ho ;-p Merry Christmas everyone!

2009-12-18T00:49:00.000-08:00

I am jetting off to sunnier climes tomorrow and I can't wait. This will be my last blog post until the New Year, so I wanted to wish everyone a fabulous Christmas and New Year before I go. I'll think of you all while I am supping a Mai Tai in the sunshine ;-p lol.

I hope you enjoy these Youtube clips, this makes me laugh out loud every time. They're very funny and very clever. My brother has a Norwegian girlfriend and apparently it's tradition to watch this British comedy classic 'The Same Procedure as Last Year' on Christmas day.

Back soon.... luv Rebecca XXXX

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ku1_DjEBl_g

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bPVCtpNjMtY

Listen to my interview with Al Needham about my book...

2009-12-10T00:58:00.000-08:00

Here's the audio clip of my first live public appearance talking about my book. If you remember I talked at the Left Lion Extravaganza here in Nottingham on the 3rd October. Here I openly discuss with Al my reasons for writing my book, my job as an escort, the misconceptions about my job and lastly questions were opened up to the audience. Out of all the interesting questions I got asked and further ones I could have been asked, one lady asked if I paid tax! Lol. Answer was yes btw :) She was an accountant haha :) PS - note the Bach's Rescue Remedy Spray in the yellow bottle! Lol. yes I was very nervous.

Left Lion interview

Al Needham Nottingham's Mr Sex here's his blog - top bloke

Belle De Jour

2009-12-03T02:12:00.000-08:00

I have been asked my thoughts on Belle de Jour outing herself as Doctor Brooke Magnati. I am ashamed to say (sorry Brooke) that I was a none believer. In fact it was the book Belle De Jour that prompted me to write. I found the book very sensationalised and titillating and I was convinced that it was written by a man! I wanted to write a book to show a more realistic rounded view of both the good and bad side of escorting.

I have to confess I hadn't started reading the blog, until recently so I can only really comment on the book. The book made escorting sound very glamorous, and it can be but it certainly isn't always like that, there wasn't anything negative about the profession in there. I wrote about my embarrassing experiences and I think had Brooke done the same it would have sounded more believable. I think for a rounded book you need 'the good the bad and the ugly' so to speak. Had I not been an escort myself I suspect I would have perhaps found the book more believable and enjoyable.

However I very much enjoy Belle's writing style and quick, observational wit, especially through her blog which I now follow.

I realise now that maybe Brooke because she was keeping anonymous almost created another persona for herself, there was Brooke the doctor, X the escort, and then Belle who was possibly a character very different to her actual escort persona and certainly the agency she worked with was also very different and less glamorous than the one described in the book.

I admire her courage in outing herself although from what I've read she was put in an impossible situation and had to come clean before someone did it for her against her will. What an awful situation to be in. I think she has been very lucky to have been able to keep anonymous for so long with the tv series which she apparently helped with along with other things. This was another reason I was doubting Belle's existence because I couldn't believe that she would have been able to keep anonymous for so long, and I joked on one forum thread somewhere that I didn't believe she existed because why would she have secrecy like the MI5 when there are so many greedy people who want to make money and don't care who they hurt in the long run. I just didn't think there were that many decent people around and it's refreshing to know that there are those people out there. I think that Brooke has been incredibly lucky to have avoided these sorts of people and she obviously has amazing, loyal friends. Unfortunately it looks like there was just one bad egg, but still I think it has been 4 or 5 years of anonymity.

I wish Brooke all the best and I am sure she feels proud of her success both as a doctor and as an escort, blogger, best selling author and with the success of the TV series. I have a lot of respect and admiration for her and she has maintained her dignity throughout her recent ordeal. She has paved the way for all of us escorts, broken the stereo types, and shown that some of us are intelligent and can also have successful high power jobs, and that many of us are just normal girls.

Belle if you ever read this thank you! XXXX

Girl power! Rar :)

Erotica This weekend!

2009-11-19T02:39:00.000-08:00

Olympia at Earls Court http://www.erotica-uk.com/

I'll be on George Mccoy's stand (G10) selling signed copies of my book (tomorrow) Friday 20th, Saturday 21st and Sunday 22nd.

Anybody that hasn't been before it's great fun for adults. Lots of stands with fashion, fetish, lingerie, erotic books (I know a good one, The Girlfriend Experience hehe ; -p)

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1844547523/ref=sib_rdr_dp There's also porn, toys, fun sexy stuff and erotic art, sculpture and photography.

Please feel free to come and say hi :)

Update - thank you to all those who came to say hi and who bought a copy of my book! I sold all my signed copies the last ones in the hotel bar at 2am! Hehe :) Especially those that follow me on twitter and my blog - Scott (my new Twitter friend ) Helen and Babs X Also thanks to you Nick the coach driver :) X

The 'man look'

2009-11-04T09:11:00.000-08:00

I just had to post this because twice in the past 2 days I have had guys asking me where something is and not being able to find it.

Now perhaps you guys can shed some light on the 'man look'. Let me explain the 'man look' is a half hearted 'look' for something. Ie - you've looked at the scene in front of you as a whole and haven't been able to see what you are looking for, usually because a) you haven't actually moved anything and b) you haven't looked properly!

It's something that I was used to hearing at home my dad shouting 'where's my shirt?' 'It's in the airing cupboard' my Mum would call back. 'I've looked and it's not there!' My dad would shout adamantly. Frustrated my mum would end up having to go to the airing cupboard herself and within a matter of 2 seconds literally she would pull it out, usually without having to move anything at all.

Yesterday at my gym I arrived to see the owner Andy standing in his cupboard looking puzzled - it's not a big cupboard, its about the size of an airing cupboard but it wasn't cluttered and the small amount of things in there were tidy and neat. He was looking for his scales and knew that they were in his walk in cupboard on one of the 6 shelves. He was scratching his head for ages. I laughed and told him he'd done a 'man look' and went to the cupboard myself. He explained how it wasn't on the first shelf or on the second as he gave me a run-down of what was on each shelf and just as he was about to say it wasn't on the third - he saw the scales sitting there, underneath something else, but clearly visible without having to move anything!

Now the day before I had a guy email me saying he couldn't find a photo of me that he liked. I explained that there were no recent changes to my site so I again I joked and told him he'd had a 'man look'. I reiterated that it would still be there and asked him to go back to my site have a proper look. He came back to me and told me he couldn't find it. I went on the site myself and found the photo in a matter of seconds on my 'reviews' page.

I rest my case! :) Any guys shed any light on why you don't look for things properly? Lol

BBC Radio Solent live interview MONDAY 26th Oct...

2009-10-25T10:19:00.000-07:00

I'll be on live from 2.30 pm and the interview will not be a discussion but rather a conversation with me about my life, my experiences, and my decision to write a book. The interview will last approximately 20 mins. It's available on playback for those who missed it but I'm not sure how long for.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/local/hampshire/hi/tv_and_radio/

I hope you all enjoy :) Please write any feedback on the interview here on my blog.

I really enjoyed my interview with Charlie. She was lovely and made me feel very welcome. I always find it awkward on radio interviews because they seem to cut you off suddenly which is frustrating when you are thinking of a couple of things you want to get into conversation. I was cut off before I had the chance to say 2 things firstly - that as much as I get on with guys (I have always had close male friends from a young age) I am also equally a girls girl and I think some ladies see me as some sort of femme fatale and husband stealer. The truth is I am very concious of other peoples feelings and certainly none of my friends have a problem with me being around their men. I am an extremely loyal person. I think it's a common misconception that even in our personal lives escorts will target and flirt with any man regardless of who they are with. I would never date a married man or a man with a girlfriend.

And secondly (thankfully Charlie added this in after I had gone) escorting is not something I'd recommend young girls to get into. Maybe this confused people and maybe some thought it was hypocritical but here's my reasoning - I consider myself very lucky to have spent 9 years in this profession and come out unscathed. It's an extremely dangerous job to be in, not for the reasons you might necessarily think ie the risk of physical violence (that's certainly never happened to me nor have I been anywhere close) but rather the risk of losing ones self respect and ending up on a slippery slope of alcoholism and/or drugs.

BBC Radio Nottingham ...

2009-10-19T11:59:00.001-07:00

I'll be on live briefly for 5 minutes discussing escorting tomorrow morning around 8.30 :)

http://www.bbc.co.uk/nottingham/local_radio/

Notoreity - 'write about me please Bea!'

2009-10-12T06:06:00.000-07:00

I got this email the other day. It really tickled me :) .....

I read your book Bea - nice job! So like I said it was very interesting and entertaining and a pretty honest insight into someone's personal life of adventure. Nothing seemed sugar-coated except for the horrible time you had putting up with me.(Thanks for leaving that part out.) No actually if I knew you were writing the book I'd have paid you to mention me - as vanity has it - and it's nice to piggy-back on another's fame or notoriety. Anyway I gave my copy to my best friend but wouldn't reveal that I was a client. Heh-heh. (I told him to read it to see if I were mentioned.) So I'm awaiting his reaction to your story that I found so intriguing.'

How funny so this guy Frank (pseudonym btw :) actually was disappointed I hadn't written about him! Lol. There's me carefully changing names, places, visual descriptions to avoid others knowing who I was speaking about, and yet there's some that actually wanted me to write about them and would cherish the fact I had remembered our date and that it was special and/or memorable enough for me to write about it in a book about my life story! Lol :)

Teenage escorts...

2009-10-06T12:07:00.000-07:00

I got a worrying text from a young 18 year old beautician this evening. It read -

'Times are getting hard for cash at the mo and I've been thinking a lot recently and I was wondering how old do you have to be to escort?'

Although the legal age for escorting is 18 I actually think it should be 25. At 18 you think you know everything when you don't, and it's a very vulnerable age to start. I would never encourage anyone to escort. It doesn't suit everyone and potentially it can be extremely damaging to a girls self worth.

Those that do decide to do it have to be doing it for the right reasons and certainly not if they are in any way unstable or are 'desperate for cash'. It's not for me to assess who is suitable and who is not and I certainly wouldn't want the responsibility of recommending someone to give it a go and then them getting messed up . I consider myself incredibly lucky to be unscathed after 9 years of escorting. I have been very disciplined and done things my own unique way and because of strict with the method of conducting my business I have kept my self respect and self worth. However lots and lots of girls lose it and end up hating men and turning to drugs and alcohol. I've discussed this in my book The Girlfriend Experience.

I had a young 18 year old friend when I first started escorting when I was 25. Unfortunately she decided that she wanted to start working as an escort. I was mortified. I couldn't discourage her so all I could do was to advise her as best as I could hope she listened to my advice to stay safe.

I gave her two very important pieces of advice and told her she was never to compromise them -

1 - to always tell her Mum where she was going, give her all the contact details of the person she was seeing and where she was staying and also when to expect her back.

2 - to never ever do anything she didn't want to do.

Unfortunately she didn't take my advice on either of these things and once I got a call from her mother at 10 am one morning telling me she hadn't returned home. She was expected back the previous evening and her mum hadn't heard from her. She had not left her mum any of the details. Her mum was extremely distressed and worried and so was I, especially because with no information there was nothing I or her mum could do, but wait for her to get home or get in touch. I advised her mum to wait a couple more hours and then phone the police to report her missing. She rocked up home, oblivious to all the stress and upset she had caused. The guy had basically asked her to stay longer and she had done so without telling her mum.

She also considered going to Thailand to meet a client. I asked her a series of questions -

Where is Thailand? 'I don't know'

What language do they speak? 'I don't know'

What currency do they use? 'I don't know'

Have you got a credit card? 'No'

How do you expect to get home if there are any problems? 'I don't know'

Do you know there is a lot of people trafficking in Thailand, especially young girls going missing? 'No'

Can you use your mobile phone there? 'I don't know'

Have you asked him to pay a deposit? 'No'

Have you got a reference from someone who has been to see him? 'No'

Are you going to be able to receive the full return ticket before you travel? 'I don't know'

She was crazy to consider going, but she thought I was jealous and trying to spoil her fun.

Another time she called me traumatised with a meeting with a disabled client who rudely hadn't informed her of his disability before she arrived. I would have taken quite a chunk of the fee for my inconvenience and left if I felt uncomfortable. She felt obliged to stay and go through with the meeting even though she was distressed because she was worried she'd get a 'bad review'. Sod the reviews! I won't compromise my comfort and safety for anyone!

I have turned down work, even though I have really needed money because I didn't feel that the job was for me, and I've taken payment holidays from my mortgage and struggled with the lack of cash, but I still wouldn't go and see just anyone. The problem is girls get greedy and want to earn as much money as possible, and that's when it can get dangerous.

I replied to the above text saying that the legal age is 18 but that there isn't much work around at the moment with the 'credit crunch' - especially for someone new who isn't known, starting out and that the market is saturated with girls - which is true. I hope this is enough to discourage her. Fingers crossed.

Update.... she's coming to mine next Friday and I've offered to help her with her CV, hopefully I can tweak that and give her some advice so she has some luck with getting some interviews and hopefully a job.

Left Lion Extravaganza ....

2009-10-05T21:13:00.000-07:00

I reached the pub in a panic, late, and as I swung the door open to wheel in my little case about 200 men's eyes wandered to the door to observe my arrival. I felt like a new species as I acutely felt my entrance spark very unwanted interest.

A new wave of panic waved over me as I tried to enter confidently and scan the hundreds of faces for a familiar face. Stairs, I saw the stairs, and knew that was where I was supposed to be. I couldn't wait to get away from the testosterone saturated crowd.

As I moved across the room I felt like prey as dozens of eyes followed my every move. Finally after what seemed like forever I reached the safety of the stairs and I made my way up, preparing myself to relax and calm my nerves.

Upstairs there was no sign of Nottingham's Mr Sex, Al, and all I saw was more men watching football on a large screen. I called and couldn't reach him, and I stood in the middle of it all feeling the panic rapidly rising.

My friend had gone to park the car. I felt totally out of place and incredibly uncomfortable. I decided a glass of wine might calm my nerves, and ordered a glass of the house wine, which was the only wine. Yup it was a man's pub for sure!

I stood at the side and surveyed my surroundings. This was not at all what I had expected. I had in mind an arty small crowd and a small intimate venue. I remember thinking it was odd to go from football to readings, but I was more concerned that I couldn't get hold of Al.

My breathing got shorter and shorter and my lip started quivering, my whole body shook uncontrollably. I was about to lose it! Sure enough the tears started rolling and I panicked. Big time! The realization of what I was about to do just hit me, and I was terrified!

Al finally called and said he was downstairs, and I was about to make my way downstairs when I realized I wasn't going to be able to take my wine, my bag and suitcase down the stairs safely with my 6" platform black sandles. Before you let you imagination run wild, I was wearing skinny jeans with these and a loose red check shirt, showing a tad of cleavage. It was Saturday night after all! ;-p

In the panic I had lost all ability to think rationally, and actually called Al back to ask him whether I could leave my case upstairs. "Er yes" he answered. Oh god how embarrassing! I desperately willed myself to get a grip.

As I made my way downstairs into the lions den, I tried to look around without making eye contact with anyone, which was incredibly difficult, especially when you can feel yourself being watched. I called Al again as I stood with my back to the door staring at the sea of faces.

The penny finally dropped. I was in the wrong pub! How could I have been so careless? I mean me, super planner, organiser that always likes to be early and prepared.

I had got into my head I was meeting Al at the Horn in the Hand! I have no idea why because I have never been to that pub, so how I got the name logged in my head as my meeting and performing place I have no idea!

Just then my friend arrived from parking the car. We both went up the stairs away from the prying eyes and I tearfully gave her the run-down of my little drama. She was very good, very calming and told me not to worry, she got herself a J20 and we decided we'd finish our drinks and make our way to the correct pub, The Hand on the Heart.

Time was getting on and being late made me panic even more. I was supposed to meeting Al at 5pm, to go through all the questions I was going to be asked about my book that evening at The Left Lions Circus Extravaganza. I was due on at 6.45 and it was now 6pm.

I had been planning and preparing all day, but my friend turned up late and it was one big rush and disaster from there on in continuing with getting stuck going around the one way system in town.

We had to go back to the car and then re-park somewhere else. I made it to the pub at 6.15 and Al and I finally linked up. I was embarrassed, tearful and apologetic. I hate being late. We got drinks and sat in the corner of the pub and both briefly looked over the questions. I'd written down all my answers, not because I needed to learn them, I know what my thoughts are, but I was terrified I was going to forget, and that the pressure and nerves was going to disable my speech!

Although I could still feel panic, I was no longer upset. I was just concious acutely of nerves. My heart was hammering in my chest and I couldn't take a full breath.

Three friends had come to show their support so it was great to see some familiar faces. I was talking upstairs so shortly before I made my way up. Entering quietly I heard the last of some inspiring poetry. I scanned the crowd. They were all listening intently and definitely looked as I expected them to look - arty and studenty and very relaxed and chilled. Some were sitting on the floor and others on chairs and stools around the side. There must have been 30-40 people, so it wasn't too many. I still didn't relax though I was still terrified!

When the poetry finished there was a short break before me and Al took to the stage, and Al and I both nipped out for a crafty cig. I'm not a smoker, I'm one of those annoying social smokers that pick and choose when I want a cig, and it's usually when I'm out and having a few drinks, and it's usually dependent on whether I am out with smokers or not.

The ten minute break went quickly and we positioned our two chairs with a table in front of us for our glasses of water. Taking my seat next to Al, James introduced us. I thought I'd try and forget that I was in front of an audience and that I was just talking to Al. I was very comfortable with him and he can talk for England and oozes confidence so I tried to relax. He introduced me and asked if I wanted to read the extract I had suggested from my book. I was already there I was going to have to talk so I thought 'sod it' I may as well do as much as I can. Hell if I can jump into bed and be intimate with a random stranger and pretend to be a girlfriend this should be a walk in the park. Shouldn't it?

Deep breaths, talk slowly and clearly and I think I did. I did not look up. I then got a clap! Wow ok now for the questions. I did ok I think. I tried to be funny a few times and people laughed in the right places. I was by no means relaxed but it wasn't as bad as I had mounted it up to be in my head.With the way I was acting anyone would have thought I was going to be talking on stage to 1000 people all sitting down in suits!

It's the story of my life. I'm a serial worrier and even though I know that things are never as bad as I think they're going to be, it doesn't stop from escalating them in my head and making a situation as scary and daunting as possible! Talk about being hard on yourself and not making life easy! I'm not proud to say but I am the master of this.

We got to the end of the questions quickly and even though I am sure I missed out a few points I wanted to make, and stumbled a bit, I really think I did ok. When the questions were opened up to the floor, I got apprehensive. Was there going to be some raging feminist that was about to rip me apart? No, just some genuinely interested nice people with great questions, nothing too probing, uncomfortable or intrusive.

It was over before I knew it, and I got another clap! :) I sold 2 books and a couple of people complimented me after, which was nice.

I could finally relax with my friends, get another glass of wine - large - and have another ciggie, before going back to the upstairs room to listen to Al's readings. They were hilarious. He has the perfect face and voice for telling his funny stories. When he looks dead pan above his glasses, pauses, and slowly talks through his antics and letters he received as an editor of top shelf magazines, the whole room was roaring with laughter!

A massive thank you to James and the rest of the Left Lion crew for inviting me on the gig, and for organizing it all and to Al for guiding me patiently through my first public speaking. I hope the Left Lion Extravaganza will be a regular thing!

http://todgertalk.blogspot.com/

http://nicolamonaghan.blogspot.com/2009/10/circus-versus-fair.html

http://www.leftlion.co.uk/

PS; thankfully my lip had healed apart from a small scab that easily covered with a bit of makeup :)

Nottingham's Mr Sex!

2009-09-30T03:04:00.000-07:00

Last week I met a great guy Al Needham, Nottingham's very own Mr Sex as he likes to be called :-/ I know it sounds a sleazy/cheesy name but he's great fun and a very genuine and nice guy. The main editor of Left Lion (an edgy, controversial, popular, local magazine) James emailed me after I sent him a copy of my book suggesting I might like to take part in a free festival in Nottingham on the 3rd October. There they planned to have some readers and he suggested I joined forces with Nottinghams Mr Sex. I was apprehensive but it sounded interesting. Al has won an award for the best sex blog, his worthy prize being a big golden 'todger' for the mantle-piece :))) Check out his blog peeps it's very funny and insightful...

http://todgertalk.blogspot.com/

As well as lots of live music and entertainment there will be a number of readings taking place and I will be talking with him on stage about my book on Saturday at the free festival in Nottingham at Canning Circus.

http://www.leftlion.co.uk/articles.cfm/id/2650

Al has also interviewed me for the November edition of Left Lion magazine... so keep a look out for that :)

Oh no bust lip!!!!

2009-09-30T00:29:00.000-07:00

I had quite a traumatic weekend with me ending up with a bust lip (no I was not fighting btw - I'm a lover not a fighter :). I was at a friends 30th birthday party Friday night. They're quite a crazy, rowdy bunch but such good fun. It seems my role towards the end of the night was nurse Beki. After a raucous, delicious pie and pea supper at a local country pub, the party moved to my friends boyfriends house. By this time we were all pretty merry. One girl Anna ended up falling backwards over a sofa and busting her hand. She insisted it would be fine, but it definitely needed at least ice - but in hindsight - the hospital! She kept taking the ice off and I spent ages following her around nagging at her to keep it on. No one was booking taxis, which would have prompted me to do so, so I didn't think to book one. What I was forgetting was that they all lived in the small country village we were in. Doh! I could have kipped over somewhere but I don't do spur of the moment staying over, I like to be prepared with my wash stuff, and ear plugs :))) I was forgetting I wasn't in the city and that I was out in the country where taxi's stop running after about 2/3.

As most were still partying I found myself on a mission back to Anna's house (the gal with the bust hand) and following us were a couple that we both knew - Kate and Alex. Kate was extremely drunk zig zagging, so I walk to the small town was taking forever as we were going twice the distance! I was ahead with Anna when I almost saw Kate almost collapse to the floor. Alex had made a toilet stop and she carried on trying to walk. I rushed to her side and propped her up. She had the wall on one side and me on the other as we made small baby steps on our mission.

Suddenly her legs buckled and I thought she had passed out, because her hands didn't move and she was heading head first into the pavement. I grabbed the side of her head with one hand as she fell, but she was going to bang the other side of her head, so I put both my hands around her head to protect it. Handless I landed on top of her and smashed my face into the concrete. She completely oblivious wondered why on earth I was crying and got quite shirty with me when she finally got to her feet. And that's the thanks I got! Lol.

The mission continued, and we'd been walking an hour - me in my wedges! Just as we arrived to the town after an hour off Anna telling me her house was 5 minutes away, I managed to flag down a taxi that had dropped off and come from a larger town so I made my way back to my mum's with my broken lip!

Feeling sorry for myself I went to bed then was rudely awoken by chickens after 3 hours. In a bad mood I jumped in my car came back to Nottingham and spent the day in bed recovering!

Even though I looked hideous and tired, on my way back I got checked out and ogled by at least 3 guys passing in cars. With my bust, bruised lip I must have looked like I'd had injections to make my lips pouty, but I guess from the side they just looked like luscious plump full lips! :)))

And the moral of the story is.... the 5 P's planning, preparation, prevents piss poor performance! :)))) I shoulda booked my taxi when I left the pub!

Ooooo I almost forgot the piece de resistance, the icing well and truly on top of the cake - I stopped at the drive through Maccy'D's for a sausage and egg Mc Muff I kinda felt I deserved it, and I got home crawled into bed with my muff, and it had no sausage!!!!! arrrghhhhhhhh, so I had an egg and cheese muffin instead. I was not a happy bunny I tell thee!

I'm hoping my broken lip is mended for my first live public appearance at the free Nottingham Festival on Saturday :-/

I guess I should consider myself lucky because Anna has broken two bones in her hand!

The Other Side

2009-09-22T07:31:00.000-07:00

For those of you that missed the programme it's available for a month online here - please do feel free to add your feedback here on my blog :)

http://www.itv.com/ITVPlayer/Video/default.html?ViewType=5&Filter=101971

Thank you all for your feedback - there seems to be a common theme :))) some of the texts I've had are...

'Just finished watching The Other Side thought you did really well. Carole Malone came across as a right b***h! Well done you!'

'Just watched The Other Side, u came across really well. That Carole was a right b***h! And the monk was just odd! Well done honey!'

'I have just seen The Other Side on video and you came across really well. Well done love! Can't stand the mouthy blonde one! Good luck with everything'

'Just watching now argh! That lady is annoying me, the presenter Tracey is a bit biased and that old frump on the couch! But you are coming across educated and calm. They are all very black and white apart from the priest on the right...'

'Well done you looked ladylike and dignified and made your points clearly...'

I've had emails also from people I don't know all very supportive and pretty much saying the same thing. Thank you to everyone for your kind words XXXX

The Other Side ITV show

2009-09-15T09:23:00.000-07:00

Yesterday I went to Birmingham for the
second part of my filming. It went very well I think. Although as it was a debate, I think I was far too polite, waiting for people to finish before speaking, so I didn't say as much as I'd have liked! Lol :))) John Stapleton hosted the debate and present were 2 open minded priests :) Carole Malone journo for NOTW (grrrr), Linda Popadopolis psychologist regularly featured on This Morning, and Diane Abbott labour MP, fighting for the legalisation of prostitution.

The debate was about lust and prostitution and integrated in the debate will be my short film with Tracey Cox and a short film with a street prostitute. I thoroughly enjoyed the challenge and I thought everyone was really friendly and made me feel very welcome. I just need a bit more debating practice then I'll be away and I'm sure I'll be a force to be reckoned with! :)))

In the debate we discuss the dangers of women through prostitution, whether it right or wrong to lust after someone when you are in a relationship or married and infidelity. Watch out for the programme it's on late - the early hours of Monday morning :-/

http://www.radiotimes.com/ListingsServlet?event=10&channelId=26&programmeId=103165375&jspLocation=/jsp/prog_details_fullpage.jsp

New Amazon review.....

2009-09-15T09:12:00.000-07:00

New Amazon review -- thanks sooo much XXX

By	RRS Bransfield (North of England) -

This is a recommended read for anyone seeking genuine insight into a world underpinned by privacy and discretion.

The book explores a manifestation of `the oldest profession' in which sex appears to play a less prominent role, but genuine emotional connection is key, even if only temporary.

One of the most compelling aspects is the compilation of contributions from family and close friends, documenting their views on the author's fulfilment of her chosen profession - a brave and unglamourised addition.

The other, is the inclusion of numerous, extended diary accounts of actual dates, which are fresh and fun to read.

The author comes across as a genuinely caring and grounded individual, a passionate advocate for her vocation, who is both capable and willing to work hard, to achieve the success which she deserves and seems to have achieved.

Showbizworks

2009-09-15T08:50:00.000-07:00

My agent now has me on her site if anyone wants to book me for a personal appearance or as a guest speaker :)

Rebecca Dakin - Book Now with Online Entertainment Agency, Showbiz WorksSource:

http://www.showbizworks.com/display/viewArtiste.asp?actid=1860

If you want something doing properly do it yourself!

2009-09-08T01:37:00.000-07:00

I went in myself to Nottingham Waterstone's last week. They were stocking one measly copy of my book - so much for 'sales reps'! If you want something doing properly do it yourself. How true this is...

I approached the first guy I saw and told him I was a local author and asked if there was any way he could make my book more visible to shoppers. Who will find it tucked away with just the spine showing in the 'autobiographical' section?

Straight away he ordered 6 more copies and led me to a local authors book section where he said he would make sure it had pride of place at eye level when the copies arrived, with a short description about me and the book written underneath it and they would be there face out with the full cover showing.

The funny thing is most of the local authors had written historical books on Nottingham in past years, so right in the middle of them all will be my book 'The Girlfriend Experience' about my experiences as a high class escort :)

New Amazon review....

2009-09-03T23:49:00.000-07:00

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time to review my book so far. Please keep them coming :)

Here is my most recent thank you so much Claude -

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars At last something genuine., 27 Aug 2009
By C. Pechabadens "Claude Pechabaden" (Angleterre) - See all my reviews
(REAL NAME)

This book was a great read, looked very long but somehow easy to get to the end; I was very amazed to see the author was able to share all this with potential readers, and was very touched by it all. It also taught me many things about human behaviour that I had no idea about, and I am very grateful!

She was successful at escorting, and good for her, some people deserve to be so. I didn't find it "Glamorised" but on the opposite, very down to earth. Unlike 'Belle de jour' which a friend bought me and I thought was absolute crap, (I couldn't read it all) Bea's book touched my mind as a person, and I would recommend it strongly to anyone interested in the sex industry and in another beautiful and aware human being.
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Here's a little taster from my photo shoot - you lucky people ;-)

2009-08-26T09:05:00.001-07:00

New photos and fun Interview with Tracey Cox!

2009-08-26T07:31:00.000-07:00

I've had a busy few days. Monday I had promotional photos taken for my agent so she can start finding me work. I was nervous because I'd been to see her the week before and she'd kindly arranged for Pat Wood to give me a fab new hair cut! Yes it really is true I have a different hair style!!! Wow wa woo wah I hear you say - about time ;-) It's still long but it's layered and I have a side parting and fringe. It took some getting used to and I'm still learning about styling it, but now I like it very much. Sooo Monday a photographer came to Nottingham and we did a variety of shots around the city and in a bar. I've just had the photos through and they look fab! I'm really pleased with them.

Yesterday I was with my agent in London for filming I'm doing for a new ITV show called The Other Side, discussing the 7 deadly sins. Of course the one I was involved in was Lust, and I got to meet the well respected sexpert Tracey Cox! We hit it off straight away and I could have spent hours chin wagging with her about her books/magazines and my life as an escort. Unfortunately we were there to work, but it didn't seem like work being interviewed by Tracey it was just like girlie gossip. She's very warm and down to earth and immediately put me at ease.

The second part of the filming will be a debate about whether it's right or wrong for men to pay for sex.

The shows due to be aired in October... watch this space!

Dating sites....

2009-08-15T02:13:00.000-07:00

Dating sites... mmm....so far I've found them a waste of time!

You'd think that if people were desperate enough (no insult intended, I'm browsing myself :) to go on them that they'd at least make an effort. It seems not. It's so time consuming browsing page after page of illiterate losers! Apologies if that sounds harsh but it really is unbelievable some of the profiles you find. Let me find an example...

'get bored in home so most of the time i am around the net looking for funny stuff.
would like to chat with other people and have a big laugh in front of the monitor.
if you wanna chat just send a message and i will reply.'

'whomen
I fell lonly and I just need some one to cominiked have a nice time maby we can be good frined in the fitur I all so need some normal friend to have a travel arown the world to see things to know mor'

I mean what on earth are they thinking?

I appreciate that many people find this sort of thing hard but these guys need to swallow their pride and get some help with it if they want any sort of success. Again it's that 'issue' men have with asking for help. The problem is they won't find what they are looking for if they don't sort out their profiles! If I was a guy finding it hard I'd ask a female friend to help me with it. I wonder how many of them are genuinely baffled as to why they haven't had any replies?

I've been looking for a single guy 28-38 with no children looking for dating/long term.

The big no no's for me are...
- unclear photos/sunglasses,hats,blurred and too many posey facial shots taken by the person themselves - arm stretched out. I want to see at least one facial smiling shot, one full body shot and an action shot... either out either the guys, playing a sport etc...
- txt spk - ther's nuthin mor unatrractiv an off puttin! Geez if people can't spell they should get some help or use spell checker. Again if the guys dyslectic (nothing wrong with that) get some help!
- 'don't know what to put here so email me and ask whatever you want to know'. If they can't be bothered to create a well thought out profile, girls with half a brain won't be bothered to contact them. I don't want to have to ask what they are into and waste time on conversation when we have nothing in common.
- 3 lines of text. It's just laziness. Unfortunately there's no filter when you're searching to filter out people who have only written 3 lines.
- 'I have been hurt in the past and I've had some funni dates. I know there's some time wasters and phsyco girls on here so if this is you don't contact me'

Number one, anybody that is mentioning past relationships, shows they are still holding a grudge.

Number two, I lost count of how many times I've seen funny spelt with an i.

Number 3, half decent girls will be put off by the last line hence the only people the ad will attract are the people he doesn't want to attract the bunny boilers!

Maybe I should contact them and offer to sort out their profiles ... for a small fee of course ;-) Lol

A new agent!

2009-08-11T00:02:00.000-07:00

I've just signed myself with an agent and she wants to give me a make over on Monday and create a new image for me. I'm very excited but also nervous as I really don't want to change my hair! I'm interested to hear their thoughts though. I feel like my hair is my trademark, and I really like it, but I will try to go with an open mind :-/

They have lots of ideas of what I should do now I am closing down the escorting side of my life, so I'm excited and eager to see what doors will open for me. Watch this space........ XXXX

I had to have a little smile this morning....

2009-08-04T00:15:00.000-07:00

...I got up to read my first negative review on Amazon. I almost laughed out loud. Seriously it was sooo ridiculous that it was actually funny!

In some ways Amazon reviews remind me of my escort reviews - they can say more about the person writing them, and certainly this is true with the one I got this morning.

Glamorised my book is not - maybe different to her experiences - yes, but that's all down to how I market myself. We all choose what level of the market we want to be in. My book's definitely a warts and all from being given a pooey towel to dry myself with on a date, to getting a dicky tummy and stinking out someone's bathroom, sex with chimpanzees (...btw no I didn't :), a guy I was with saying he'd killed all his friends and girlie trumps. Ok I picked out some of the grossest/shocking bits to prove a point lol :)

Now I'm all for constructive criticism, and there will be many people who will find that my book is not their cup of tea or that it's not what they expected, however this review's a joke! It screams of someone jealous and bitter. I wonder if they could write a book. Judging by the review, most likely not lol :)

If anyone has read my book and disagrees, if you have the time please do write me a review on Amazon. All helpful positive reviews are very much appreciated :)

Agony Aunt Bea...

2009-08-01T03:13:00.000-07:00

In my book (The Girlfriend Experience) one of the things I mention that I'd like to do is be an Agony Aunt, so here’s the start of my agony Aunt advice. I’m going to make do with the blog until I get my own column :) If you don’t mind your email being put on my blog please feel free to email me (b@miss-b.net) with your ‘love and relationship dilemmas’ and I’ll post them on my blog and reply with my advice.

Dear Aunty Bea,

I am three weeks into the process of getting divorced after 17 years of marriage which has been completely dead for several years, and I have no feelings whatsoever for my ex. I would love to do some relaxed and friendly dating, but am aware that I get emotionally attached very easily. I do feel that if I had several casual dates I could get a better handle on things.

Am I being completely unrealistic in wanting to date at this time? Do you have any useful tips for me to enjoy myself and not get too serious? Or should I just allow myself to enjoy falling in love without being obsessive or worrying too much about where it is going, and let things run their natural course? (I fell in love this morning with my HR lady who has the most gorgeous smile, I spent a delightful half an hour talking with her, and leaving it at that is just fine!)

Bill G.

Hi Bill,

First of all - step away from the ladies! Lol :) You’ve been married for 17 years and will have a number of emotions to deal with right now. I imagine that you will be in a very fragile state. You already admitted to yourself that you get emotionally attached very easily, so why put yourself through potentially more heartbreak so soon? My advice would be to take a break.

Personally I think you need to take time to work on yourself before you even think about dating again, so you can get yourself in the right state of mind mentally. You need to be happy and confident with yourself as a person and all other areas of your life - work, friends, home.

I’d concentrate on building up your confidence generally with people. You need to be mingling with both men and women. How about a hobby? I know it sounds cheesy but think it would be good for you to put your energies and enthusiasm into an interest, or a club. What would you enjoy; something extreme? A sailing club? Flying? Skiiing? Is there something you’ve always wanted to do but never had the time for? Photography? Painting? Martial Arts? You need to find something you enjoy and try and put your quest for love on the back burner for a good long while.

This is the area I think you should be building on during a divorce. Not talking about falling in love! That’s just crazy.

Falling in love with the HR lady after talking to her for half an hour is not healthy, and I’d advise you not to say anything to her about it because she’ll run a mile. She was just being friendly and trust me us women get tired of men getting the wrong idea just because we smile and are friendly towards them.

I’m not saying don’t date, but I would take your time, and preferably a long time! For now enjoy the other pleasures life can offer.

Good luck with it all, and I hope the divorce gets sorted quickly without causing you too much stress and upset.

I hope this helps! Lots of love, Bea XXXX

Little Miss independent...

2009-07-29T05:14:00.000-07:00

The other day I was preparing for an outdoor concert with a friend. I donned my sexy pink wellies, jeans and a pink rain coat, my hair was the 'just got out of bed look' tousled and wavy and I had no make up on apart from some tinted moisturiser.

I went to wait at the bus stop for a bus to town and as I arrived an older gent was eyeing me up. I stood behind him uncomfortably away from his wandering eyes, but he looked back at me and sparked up conversation about the buses. I was friendly towards him. He asked where I was going, and then suggested walking further down the road to get the choice of 4 buses rather than just the two from where we were standing. I don't frequent buses so this was news to me. I walked down with him and he comented that I was getting some admiring glances from cars passing by. He didn't really ask anything about me until we got on the bus and he sat next to me. He asked if I was single and when I said I was he did a character analysis about me based on our brief conversation about buses and how I looked and it went like this ....

'You look like a free spirit. I reckon you never stay in one place for a long time. I think you like to travel. You look really independent. I bet you don't want to settle down and have kids.'

I was horrified that this was the impression I was giving with my none made up face and pink wellies.

It occurred to me that one of the reasons I am single is because I may be giving off the wrong vibes! So what do I have to do to look like I want to settle down? Dye my hair brown and start dressing frumpily? Lol :) I am independent but I have to be because I am single. However I'd love to be with someone and feel looked after and cared for.

It occurred to me that I do get stereo typed with the boobs and blond hair. However I never dress tartily, and only wear full make up if I am going out in the town for a night on the tiles - which isn't often nowadays! I'm quite a contridiction to this stereo type, but I like how I look and I'm not changing that for anyone! :)

Relationship expert...

2009-07-29T04:26:00.000-07:00

Thinking back on my escort experiences I think I'd make a rather good relationship adviser, and looking back at my last post - a coach for single men looking for relationships. After all I've spent 9 years dating through my job. I've dated both single men and married men, and I've learnt a lot about relationships and what men want out of them. Now there's food for thought .... :)

Grooming tips for single men....

2009-07-20T09:46:00.001-07:00

Thinking about my next job maybe I should be an expert and start advising single men on how to find a woman :) Firstly for you single guys here's a list of how to present yourself...

I was inspired by one of my regular single gents to compile this list... and btw no these do not all apply to him! Lol

If you think about what you like for a woman, then just apply the same to yourself for example - if you appreciate the smell of a woman who wears perfume then...

- Make sure YOU are always smelling fresh with aftershave or some sort of fragrance, but not too much! :)

-Keep all facial, nasal and ear hair trimmed.

- Don't think 'I don't have a girlfriend so I don't have the make the effort' because if you think like that you'll never get one! Unfortunately in this world looks do count. You don't have to be the best looking bloke but you do need to look like you look after yourself and take care and pride in your appearance.

- Make sure your hair (if you have it) and glasses (if you wear them) suit your face. If you're not sure, just ask. Go to a proper hairdressers and speak to a stylist, and an optician regarding glasses.

- Clothing is difficult for men, especially single ones. Men tend to go for 'safe' options which make them blend in, and depending on colours you can also make yourself look washed out. If you have greyish hair and pale skin, don't go for greyish clothes and dull browns because they will wash you out even more. Go for colours like light to mid blue or even navy. Noone expects men to be an expert in the field of clothing, but it depends how much you actually want to find a special lady. If you're not having any luck then you should at least make sure that your appearence is sorted before you move onto building confidence etc... because once you look the part, you will start to feel the part, then when you feel it it's easier to act it!

I know men don't like asking for anything but you need to get over it! Lol. Shops like House of Frazer all have personal shoppers available and it's a free service. If you book an appointment they will talk through any clothes you want to buy and help advise you on a new look. Don't say 'no' to everything they pick up. It's good to try things you wouldn't normally try you will be surprised. Women are so good at shopping because we do ask advice and we do listen to what other people think, so we learn fast what suits us.

Look in mens magazines for ideas or take note of which celebrities styles you like. It's a good starting point if you get a personal shopper to take some ideas with you.

- Look tidy. I hate seeing slightly over weight men with oversized clothing all untucked. This makes you look bigger! The right sized shirt tucked in looks much nicer and will make you look trimmer! Just call me Gok Wan :))) hehe

- Stand up tall don't slouch and walk confidentally. This will be easier if you get yourself a style and you feel comfortable with what you are wearing.

- And don't forget the shoes women as you know are obsessed with shoes and we do take note of a mans shoes.

.... I guarentee if you take note of these tips women will start to take notice of you :)

The Girlfriend Experience/Rebecca Dakin - book feedback

2009-07-13T01:01:00.000-07:00

Thank you all for your kind emails and feedback :) Here's some bits of emails I've received about the book. If anyone would like to add their thoughts on my book to this thread please do, and even better Amazon reviews will be very much appreciated :)

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It really makes fascinating reading - one of the most interesting I have read .... extremely well written and with a lovely writing style. You come across as as in "real" life a very caring person, with a lovely sense of humour. I'd say that if you took up writing full time you'd do very very well indeed. I'm sure you could write a few "fiction" romances for Mills and Boon just concentrating on your experiences in escorting alone!

I hope you will write at least one more book if not a series. Can't wait for another one though I am sure it must have been very time consuming. Of course it is also very 'brave' of you to write under your real name and I am sure that this book will help quite a number of other young women to see that escorting, if properly researched and appropriate safety precaustions taken can be a pretty rewarding occupation for those with talent and those who care about their clients.

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I've just finished reading a great book I just had to tell you about, I think you might know it - The Girlfriend Experience. Congratulations on having the courage to put in to writing your story, I found the book at times challenging, enlightening and thought provoking.

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If the book helps to de-mystify the escort profession, then that´s great. I always get the impression that people think there are only two types of escorts: The ones who are forced into it by poverty, pimps, drugs or a combination of those factors and the ones who live a life of luxury and glamour. And whilst there surely are a lot (unfortunately) who fall into the first category, there are probably only very few who fall into the latter category.

However, only very few people seem to realise those who have freely chosen to do this (although they are well-educated and have other opportunities) either as a full-time profession, a part-time job to augment their income or a secret hobby to spice up their not just their wallets but also their lives. Maybe if people were more aware of this part of the "market", then they would also see punters in a different light and not just as scum.

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Just wanted to say I'm half way through reading your book and think it's absolutely brilliant - I love your honesty and frankness! Well done hun and good luck for the future - Shame I never got the chance to meet you whilst you was working.

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One of my regulars J that I wrote about in my book text me to say.... ' Reading with aprehension, intrigue and much fondness.'

J has since emailed me...

Despite my reservations about the book, you have done a good job maid, I would even go as far to say its quite a brilliant 'OK' !
I've known you now for over 5 years a time in my life where things have not been particularly good for me but you've made me enjoy life and laugh again. Whatever the future holds there will always be a chapter in my life for you with very fond memories.

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Talksport Radio

2009-07-09T07:58:00.000-07:00

I did it! - My first live radio in a studio! It was so much fun. I really enjoyed it. I was worried my nerves would get in the way but after a few minutes I settled in. Ian Collins the presenter put me at ease, and I was given a pint of lager to help things along :)

We discussed my job, the book and even the news! I was on for about an hour, and it flew by.

A couple of people text messaged me with some great feedback, so I think I did ok. You never know maybe that's my next job... presenting! :)

Talksport Radio

2009-07-06T08:28:00.001-07:00

I'll be doing a live interview about my book on Talksport some time between 12.00 and 1.00 am Wednesday morning. I'll be off down to London tomorrow and I'll be stopping over night to do my interview in the early hours.

http://www.talksport.net

I hope I don't get asked about sport or I will be stuck! Lol :)

From escort to......?

2009-06-30T22:47:00.000-07:00

I don't think some people realize how difficult it is to change professions once you've been an escort for a long period of time, even if you have managed to stay sane, and have avoided the drugs and alcohol route. Contrary to popular belief if you look after yourself then there's no age limit for this job, meaning we can just go on and on working.

You get used to a certain lifestyle and of course being your own boss. What other business could you set up with no initial cash outlay and no experience, with such high earning potential? There is also 'job satisfaction' - its very rewarding to see how you can change peoples life in a postive way by building their confidence and giving them special memorable times and keeping marriages together that would otherwise maybe be lost through affairs or other means.

We have an incredible amount of flexibility. We work when we want to work, and see who we want to see, all on our terms. We can have our daytimes free and choose our own working hours. We get invited to some of the most exclusive hotels and dine at the most fabulous restaurants - places that if I were in most other jobs I could only dream about. I've had some amazing experiences and had the opportunity to travel worldwide on my escorting expiditions.

Hence why a lot of ladies, although they quit escorting, they end up being drawn back in. I really don't want this to happen to me. I want to move on.

I'm naturally a caring person that likes to help people and I'm considering next year some charity work abroad. I think I need to live around some poverty and offer my help (I'm keen to work in an orphanage) just to make me realise how sad and meaningless material things are. I feel I am going to need some shock tactics to get me out of this little dream world, and realise how little some people have so I can learn to lead a more humble life.

Escorting for me is an amazing life, but I just don't want to end up doing it for ever. I want to find the man of my dreams have a fairy tale wedding and settle down and have a big brood of children :)

So has anyone seen it in the shops?

2009-06-30T06:52:00.000-07:00

I'm keen to find out when it's on the shelves! I'm not going to go out and look for it so I'm waiting for a friend to say they've spotted it before I go in a shop in disguise to see it and take a moment to feel proud. I know friends that have pre-ordered it on Amazon have their copies. One escort friend said she couldn't put it down and ended up reading the lot in two days. She really enjoyed it so I hope that others will too and that I'll get more positive feedback for all my hard work.

It's taken me years to write and I do feel a real sense of achievement. Although it's a shame that it's not the sort of book that my parents or Grandparents can read. My mum and dad still want their copy though :)

The Girlfriend Experience

i think there is a very definited blurring between an escort and a partner/girlfriend/wife. the majority are sadly not together (in the long haul at least) for love, but for money / practical reasons. very sad observation i know but true. comments?

why do you think men and women are so fixated on sex? and why do you think there is such a stigma about nudity? deep questions i know, lol, but really really interested in your answer(s).

hi, i came across a youtube video of you talking about your ex escorting days, and your book. firstly, i am ordering your book when i bank my money tomorrow! i've just starting escorting, and it's so nerve-racking! can you give me some hints/tips? xx

Following a relationship ~(18 months) - How long is acceptable before dating again?

Do you think girls are happier than boys? In general. Interested to know what you think. Think there is a lot of pressure on people these days to be seen to conforming to the stereotypical relationship portrayed by the media etc.

I was just looking for a personal opinion on girls and boys, based on the people you have come across. How do they seem to you. Not looking for a definitive answer based on everyone in the world, lol. And similar for love. Just your thoughts that's all :)

Do you think girls are happier than boys? In general. Interested to know what you think. Think there is a lot of pressure on people these days to be seen to conforming to the stereotypical relationship portrayed by the media etc.

Do you think most people know what love is? Boys or girls.

How's the new book coming along? Will we get to read it soon?

How do you game boys without appearing needy, etc? thanx

Have you ever thought of escorting purely for companionship? I'm guessing you did a lot of this before, but it could be your only focus now. A way of helping guys deal with their problems. But perhaps you think guys are beyond help, lol.

Rebecca Dakin, Infidelity expert and author of The Girlfriend Experience

Please check out my new blog.....http://www.thegirlfriendexperience.tvHere are my other new websites....http://www.rebeccadakin.comhttp://www.infidelityexpert.co.uk**************************************************************

If you only had a month left to live, what would you do with it?

If you could choose any job in the world to do, or universe, lol, what would it be, and what would you want to achieve while doing it?

Am I the only guy who very often prefers close seductive contact and cuddles to sex? The thing is all women think men only want sex. Any ideas to help allay a woman's fears? But perhaps all the woman wants is sex, lol.

Can you explain... ////Have you ever had it on with another girl. Even if it was only for a client? i had lesbian sex a few years before I started working as an escort, but did meet m/f couples as an escort and I also did two girl jobs with other escorts/

is there anything you would like to do before you die? not that you will soon hopefully, lol, but there might be some things you are really passionate about doing or achieving.

what makes you sad?

What is your advice for people that are unhappy within themselves?

What would your ideal man look like. What characteristics and vibe would he ideally have. Would you want to be with him 24/7, or have your time together punctuated with time apart. Do you find it easy to be alone, and happy within yourself.

Do you fear for the future of humanity? What is your idea of heaven on earth?

what makes you happy?

Have you ever had it on with another girl. Even if it was only for a client?

Have you every considered being a nun?

When you find yourself a lovely boyfriend who deserves it, will he be on the receiving end of all the lovely attention and ego-massage you used to lavish on clients? Or do you think it's not possible to give that to a man 24/7, even if you love him?

Following on from your last answer, is there anything you can do to help men with their perceived deficiencies (from a female perspective at least) in genetic and social makeup. Anything at all? lol

Why do you think men are more insecure than women? Perhaps their egos are bigger? Or they feel that being with a woman is something they have to do to find themselves, and becomes an obsession, but doesn't provide the answers they are looking for.

Was there a single characteristic you noticed about guys who were looking for an escort. Looking for a bit of depth in an answer rather than "they just wanted a good time", or "they were lonely" :-)

You say in your book that you were worried about "falling" for one guy. You only saw him once through bad luck but were willing to see him again if he could manage it. Why were you worried, and if you were worried why would you risk seeing him again?

How would you define love? Most people's idea of love is an addictive, clinging quality, that they need to complete themselves. I guess this is why escorts are in such high demand!

You are pretty. Not just in a visual sense. But in the way you come across in your recent video interview. How important is being pretty to you? How would you like to be different from the way you are?

What makes Gordon Ramsay so sexy?

Have you considered running an escort agency? Not one of the many ones that employs anyone (even though they say that they don't), but one where you could really make a difference in helping those that want to continue in the profession, make them happier

what has been the feedback from any of your former clients who have been mentioned in your book ?

I loved your book! Not really a question I just wanted to tell you how fabulous it was. From a fellow happy escort x

in your book perhaps future book(s), do any of your former clients (not just any client to make it tie in with your own story) give their perspective on the whole escorting experience? what they got out of it. frustrations. expectations etc.?

what is a regular amount you got from escorting? how does it work? or are you high class?

how often did you get tested for STD's? did you ever do it without a condom?

i guess i meant some of the key things someone would need to address emotionally / psychologically post-escorting. not yourself perhaps as you were always doing what you wanted to do. never forced into things. but even then, there might be little things?

it's good to come across a bit vulnerable in your video. honest! don't be shy :)

Do you think the lady interviewing you in your first blog video fancies you? She's certainly trying hard to talk in her sexiest voice :o)

what are some of the key things someone needs to do to be able to leave escorting. there are people who enjoy it, but many who don't. i guess everyone has a different situation. but there must be common things to be able to deal with to be able to stop?

If someone takes a job serving fast food just because they need the money, is it different to someone doing sex work just because they need the money?

do you have any specific plans, other than your book and associated publicity? have you any other plans to help people who might benefit from your help?

following on from question about leaving escorting; has your self-esteem been affected since quitting escorting? I presume your dates were CONSTANTLY telling you how beautiful you are and beaming from gratitude. Do you miss that aspect?

you seem like a level headed person. able to do things that the majority wouldn't be able to do without eventually going off the rails. what's your secret? do you find it hard to adjust post escorting?

how do you think the image of escorts is fairing these days? certainly the drug image is a big part of the culture and puts a lot of people off. i know a lot of escorts needs to use drugs to be with relative strangers. and escorting to pay for the drugs.

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